-
@ RobBrinded
2025-06-18 17:22:03
Here's an anonymized version of the session summary from today:
**A Powerful Therapy Session on Breaking the "Worthless" Programming**
Rob works with a mother struggling with her 10-year-old son's difficulties and her own deep-seated patterns.
**Core Issue: The "Worthless" Program**
The client reveals she feels trapped between:
- Needing to support her son, who isn't going to school and is "vegging out"
- Her work/identity suffering as she spends time with him
- A deep fear that both she and her son are "worthless"
**Key Patterns Identified:**
1. **Conditional Love Pattern**: The client realizes she was never loved unconditionally by her parents - only valued for achievements. She fears she's passing this to her son.
2. **The Achievement Hamster Wheel**:
- Constantly driven to achieve to feel valuable
- Terrified of being "ignored" or seen as worthless
- Can't stop the cycle even though it's exhausting
3. **The Paradox**:
- Hates attention but fears being ignored
- Pushes people away then feels abandoned
- Works constantly but gets no real pleasure from achieving
**Child as Mirror:**
Rob points out that her son is reflecting her own programming - he's showing her what happens when someone steps off the achievement treadmill, triggering her deepest fear of having a "worthless life."
**Physical Manifestation:**
The client has hives on her throat - Rob connects this to her inability to "let go" and the stress of holding back her fears from her son.
**The Breakthrough Insight:**
She realizes she doesn't know who she is without "doing." Everything in her life is performance-based: "I am a friend, I do this. I am a mom, I do this." She admits she doesn't play or do anything just for joy anymore.
**Moving Forward:**
Rob emphasizes that helping herself heal this pattern is the most valuable thing she can do for her son - to free them both from this "prison" of conditional worth based on achievement.
The session ends with the client feeling overwhelmed but understanding that she's at a crucial transformation point - "it's always darkest before dawn."