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@ Rick ~ ThrivingNow
2025-05-16 12:45:01Push it! Push it! Push it!
That chant still echoes in my bones, not just from the gym, but from the inside out. I remember watching a bodybuilder once — the weight trembling above him, his muscles bulging and giving out, the spotters swooping in to catch the bar just in time. “Train to failure,” they said. “That’s how you grow.”
And it makes sense, doesn’t it? If you’re being chased by a wild beast, you run until your body gives out. That’s how we’re wired — to survive first and foremost, not necessarily to thrive.
But what if the house we’re building isn’t under threat from wolves? What if we’ve got stone-moving machines and time to breathe? What if we’re not being chased anymore… but we still act like we are?
See, survival patterns are sneaky. They wear masks. They show up in workouts and work days. They dress up in ambition, caffeine, and “just one more thing before I stop.”
I’ve never been a bodybuilder — my brother was — but I’ve tried that route in my own work life. Lift to failure. Push it. Every other day, I’d be nursing another injury to body and mind.
I wasn’t getting stronger. I was just breaking myself in cycles. Push, break, recover, repeat.
I see the same thing with brains. Push it. Adderall. More coffee. Keep going. Hit the wall. And then—collapse.
That’s not strengthening. That’s surviving pretending to be “powerful.”
What happens to the rest of your system when your brain is sucking up all the energy just to stay on task? You stop digesting. You stop feeling the sun on your skin. You stop enjoying your kids’ laughter. Everything feels like something to push through.
That isn’t thriving.
Thriving feels different. It’s alive, yes — there’s activation. But it’s not strained. When we’re in thriving mode, we’re with our energy, not yanking it out by the roots and forcing it to regrow. The muscles — or the mind — are engaged, fluid, expressive. Alive.
It’s a fine line. You can take the same exact action and fill it with stress.
I’ve done it. I’ve turned a perfectly normal task into a survival sprint. It feels ridiculous in hindsight — like, why did I make this email reply into a mountain climb?
Because my primitive brain still whispers, “If you don’t do this perfectly and fast, you’ll die.” Not literally. But the threat feels real. The imagined judgment, the self-criticism, the fear of not being enough — they’re imaginary lions in the tall grass of modern life.
I’ve used this system on myself. I’ve strained my nervous system like fingernails scraping rock to avoid a fall that was never coming.
That’s what we’re supposed to do, right? We bring survival force into every aspect. Into parenting. Into projects. Into relationships.
And we wonder why we’re tired all the time. Not sleepy tired — soul tired. That kind of tired that feels like you ran for your life… but all you did was sit at your desk.
Here’s what I know now: if you’re not actually in danger, you can stop living like you are.
You don’t have to push everything to the edge. You don’t have to prove your strength through strain. Strength can be alive in you — not torn, not depleted, but awake and sustaining.
And when we live from there, the recovery feels different, too. We’re not collapsing. We’re restoring.
We’re not dropping all the pieces and then forcing ourselves to pick them up… again! Instead, we’re crafting a thriving life from the pieces we find, fashion, and consciously put in place.
There’s a wisdom to building your foundation around thriving — not just surviving. And thriving starts with recognizing: it’s not life or death to get through your inbox. Your self-worth isn’t measured by how busy and depleted you are.
Look around. Are you stacking more and more iron to prove something? Or are you listening to the quiet whisper that says, “Yes, move… but don’t hurt yourself doing it.”
And in a life that tells you to push until you fail, choosing to rest and relish — choosing to feel alive rather than just alive-enough — might just be the truest strength there is.
Useful Concepts for Thriving in This Story
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Primitive Brain\ The primitive brain keeps us on high alert even when we’re safe — it’s time to question whether the lion is real.
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Unrushed\ Being unrushed is a radical shift from survival tempo to the rhythm of true aliveness.
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Savvy\ Savvy invites us to work with our energy wisely, not destructively — to choose thriving over proving.
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Vitality\ Vitality flows when we stop draining ourselves for performance and start living from inner strength.
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Inspired Action\ Inspired action arises from presence and aliveness, not adrenaline and depletion.
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