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@ Subema
2025-01-30 09:37:26The idea of the Bean Bag Game is quite ingenious. I read about it on a BDSM-positive blog. Here’s how it works:
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Setup:
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Take a small cloth bag and add 10 white beans (rewards/pleasure) and 10 black beans (punishment/discomfort).
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When it’s time to play, draw two beans:
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First bean (the tone): Determines if the activity will be pleasant (white) or uncomfortable (black).
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Second bean (the task): Decides whether you get a reward (white) or punishment (black).
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Combination Interpretations:
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Black + Black\ "No fun, just work."
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Boring/challenging tasks you’d normally postpone: window cleaning, scrubbing bathroom tiles, polishing shoes.
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Could also mean no playtime (e.g., "Go straight to bed"). Pure duty – no pleasure, only discipline.
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White + Black\ "Work with a twist."
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Punishment or chores, but with a kinky edge:
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Clean the bathroom wearing a vibrating butt plug.
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Wash dishes with nipple clamps; add a clothespin to your body for every minute over the time limit.
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Still no orgasms – the black bean ensures denial.
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Black + White\ "Pleasure with pain (or humiliation)."
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Mix stimulation and discomfort:
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Ride a dildo with weighted nipple clamps.
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Give a "lap dance" to a teddy bear with a strapon.
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Chat online as a "perfect plaything" for others without touching yourself.
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Again, no orgasms – the black bean overrules the white.
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White + White\ "Lucky draw… but denial is optional."
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Freedom to indulge, though I often choose self-denial anyway. Examples:
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Edge for 30 minutes, then ask permission to climax (50% chance).
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Use toys freely, but end the session frustrated.
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The Dynamic Ratio Twist:
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The starting 10:10 ratio isn’t fixed. Adjust it based on behavior:
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Good deeds? Swap a black bean for a white one.
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Mistakes? Replace a white bean with a black one.
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Single beans can also decide smaller stakes, like:
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"Should this edge turn into a ruined orgasm?"
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"Do I deserve dessert tonight?"
Why It Works:
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Control: The beans dictate your fate, but you tweak the odds through obedience.
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Flexibility: Use pairs for major tasks, single beans for quick decisions.
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Psychological tease: Even "white + white" can mean denial – because you choose the rules.
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